Life in Dubai might look like a life of sparkling parties and high fashion, a land of glitz and glamour, but behind closed doors, many women – both married and single – are battling a range of mental health issues, from post natal depression to marital abuse and a sense of social isolation, and it affects all levels of society.
Some have simply come to the city for a chance to better their career, or loyally followed their husband as he carves the family a better life.
They end up entering a never-ending cycle of parties and alcohol, resorting to many distractions to fit in, but to no avail.
And they all share one thing in common; they are all seeking an elusive happiness.
Women in Dubai, away from their support system like family and friends, are unable to cope with the stress and boredom that comes with life abroad, and turn to a spiral of shopping, drinking and partying in order to make themselves feel better (stock image)
Life in Dubai may sound glamourous, but psychologists have explain that many British female expats are struggling with severe mental issues driving them to drink heavily, have casual sex and aesthetic surgeries in hopes to fit in (stock image)
‘They do not know where to find it, therefore they seek it outside of themselves which is always going to be a fleeting and temporary experience,’ said Timms, author of the region’s best selling Journey Back To Self.
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Psychologist and founder of The Lighthouse Centre For Wellbeing, Dr Tara Wyne says it is a way to hide from a ‘conveyor belt’ of demands.
Mental health is an emerging area in the Middle East, something slowly becoming more available, but still bathed in stigma, and due to the health insurance system, is still unaffordable for the many who desperately need it, with sessions often ranging from £120 to £160 an hour.
Though there is little expat-specific data in the UAE, research around the world has commonly shown that expatriates tend to be more at risk of mental health and substance abuse disorders than those who don’t move abroad.
An Aetna International study in 2016 revealed that expat mental health was a growing issue even then. From 2014-16, mental health claims rose in the Middle East by 28 percent, though the highest rise was seen in Europe, with a 33 per cent rise.
‘With friends and family not as readily available to buffer the stress or boredom, these women are vulnerable to indulging in habits like shopping and drinking to experience some positive emotion, a high or a pick me up, often thought of as ‘a treat’, she says.
‘This isn’t a problem in itself but if you are hooked on extrinsic rewards to bolster your mood you are trapped on the hedonic treadmill where you drink, shop or pamper and the minute it’s over your temporarily elevated happiness levels reset back to where you were and you must do the next thing.’
She says most vulnerable, are the fresh expats who are either experiencing homesickness, displacement or groundlessness, joining the Dubai circuit of parties, clubs and brunches, drinking to fit in, find a tribe and settle.
With a massive number of women turning to plastic surgery and cosmetic procedures from rhinoplasty to Botox, bariatric surgery to boob jobs, it can breed comparison, fuelling those with even the slightest sense of inferiority complex, says Timms.
Aesthetics is one of the addictions Timms sees most, not surprising when Dubai has per capita, more plastic surgeons than any other city.
Buttock implants have even surpassed breast augmentation as the Kardashian effect takes hold in Dubai too.
Dr Tara Wyne (pictured) explains that expat women in Dubai often face the same daily challenges as they used to in their home countries, on top of having to adapt to a new country, way of life and environment that drives them to experience high level of stress
‘The amount of plastic surgery and cosmetic procedures is incredibly high here, and that is only going to grow as more and more young women see this place as the land of opportunity, and to put themselves in pole position, they believe they must look a certain way.
Dr Wyne, says that expat life has ‘layers of complexity which are often ignored.
Making sure it’s done well, is critical for the whole family.
Expat women in Dubai play multiple roles and are the pivot for many lives around them, says Dr Wyne, a mother herself. Often misunderstood as ladies of leisure, living a luxurious self-centred lifestyle, the reality is often to the contrary.
‘They face all the normal daily life challenges plus those of finding a community, developing a meaningful ecosystem for themselves and/or their family, navigating changing roles and expectations as they integrate into a new culture and often play different roles than before,’ says Dr Wyne.
Dr Marie Thompson is a British psychologist in Dubai’s Vivamus clinic. ‘Sometimes it’s just about having family or friends around but the transient nature of Dubai means that’s not always there and you don’t have your normal first line of support,’ she explains.
This support can be critical for new mothers, one of the biggest risk factors of post-natal depression being perceived societal support, and within an expat environment it’s not always possible to have the people you want around you.
When things go wrong, or when there is no help for an abused wife, there are less places to turn and laws can be complex. Many women are dependent on their husbands financially and for their residency status, so don’t have the choices they might have in their home country.
There are currently between 100,000 and 200,000 Brits living in the UAE.
The number has been growing steadily from 20,000 in 2008.
For these kinds of women, and those without health insurance coverage for help, Dr Thompson offers pro bono sessions. ‘It’s definitely a situation which is very unique for this part of the world,’ she says.
These psychologists are among those filling a critical gap, offering women what may be their only source of support. ‘My role in Dubai certainly overlaps and mirrors work I did in the UK,’ says Dr Wyne.
‘However, I do find that in Dubai I am often the sole secure attachment figure my client has in their lives. They may well have friends and family here, but most of those relationships are conditional and much is expected of my clients.
‘In a culture where functioning and achievement is central to maintaining your residency, you cannot afford vulnerability or mental health issues to jeopardise your functioning. Support is a true necessity for many.