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What Women Want: Zoe Marshall and Jules Sebastian on motherhood, identity and trolls

Many new mums will be familiar with the post-baby struggle – but Zoe Marshall and Jules Sebastian had to navigate their way through motherhood under the glare of the celebrity spotlight.

Now, the two are joining forces to help new mums rediscover their identity.

Watch the full story above.

In a recent column, Zoe revealed she was diagnosed with post-natal depletion after the birth of her son Fox – which she describes as a feeling similar to that of chronic fatigue.

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“It’s when you are so exacerbated by parenthood and birth, and it’s not the same as depression where it’s an emotional imbalance, it’s also physical,” Marshall said.

“It took its toll on me.

I went back to work way too soon – and it was bad for about a year. So I’m starting to finally get myself back.

“I think we put pressure on ourselves as women – and society tells us we need to be doing it all. But we can’t do it all – we need the tribe to support us.

“And when we feel like we can go back to work or exercise and run the house and run the world, that takes its toll, especially early on.”

Dealing with trolls

Zoe has been targeted by trolls online, with people accusing her of never being with her child.

“I’ve been told that I go out too much or I work too much,” Marshall said.

“I went on a retreat for my wellbeing because I was so depleted, and they said ‘how dare you leave your child for four nights’, when the doctor was pushing me out the door.

“They’re lashing out because I’m prioritising a bit of self-care – but you can’t please them all, ever.”

What Women Want

Zoe and Jules are hosting the second What Women Want event, where keynote speakers and experts are hoping to help mothers find their purpose and identity.

“I think identity is really big, especially when you become a mother,” Sebastian said.

“I needed to find my own identity – and find my own space and being comfortable in my own skin.

“When you become a mother, you become someone’s mother. So finding your identity when you are a new mum is really important.

“If I could say one thing to new mothers, it would be to hang on. It does turn around and get easier as you learn about yourself more.

What Women Want is being hosted on Sunday, November 3rd at the Grounds of Alexandria in Sydney. Use the code ‘MORNINGS’ for a special viewer discount here.

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